*THROWBACK POST* #2

So I've decided that since I'm bored and clearly not doing homework like I'm supposed to be doing, I'm going to post up some of my OLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLD blogs from Yahoo! 360... and when I say old, I mean like up to four years old... LOL... nobody probably remembers these except Christina... or maybe she's the only person I still talk to from back then... Hmmmmmm...?

In any event... enjoy:

Ten Things I Learned in 2006
1.) People love drama. It seems that people love drama in their lives. I don't know why, but most of it stems from people wanting something to talk about. People think life is either drama-filled or boring. I guess to a certain extent it's true. But relationships in and of themselves breed enough drama. Why would you MAKE drama? I've seen examples of it before, but never really put two and two together until recently. It seems that sometimes, women want to argue just for the sake of arguing. I mean things that have no business being argued about. For example:

"Hey babe, I’m coming to see you."
"Why you coming?"
"'Cuz I want to see you."
"But I mean, why you coming now? Why didn't you come earlier?"
"What?"
"See, you so fucking inconsiderate? How you know I’m not doing something right now? How you know I’m not busy?"
"Are you busy?"
"No, but that doesn't mean I couldn't have been."
"Babe, what are you talking about?"
"See you don't even listen to me!"
"Huh?"
"You know what? I'm tired of this shit. I want a considerate man. A man who listens to me. We're over!"

I guess that's a little over the top, but I’ve had conversations like this before, trust me. And this whole thing where when a woman finds a guy she likes she has to find out "what's wrong with him." What kinda shit is that? If we're happy, why do you want to find something that's going to make you unhappy? That's like somebody cooked you this great meal and instead of just eating and enjoying it, you go outside and throw a bunch of dirt on top of it. JUST ENJOY THE DAMN MEAL ALREADY!

2.) I'm going to be a great father. Doo-Wop's going to be eight months tomorrow. And I can wholeheartedly say I’ve been the only father figure in her life thus far. I know that sounds crazy seeing as how I’m her big brother and everything, but the man whose job I’m doing right now is just... ionno... but he's definitely not doing what he's supposed to be doing. I just heard he beat up some lady and then a few months later, they got married. What kinda shit is that? But anyway, I try my best to do what he should be doing for her (still don't do the whole dirty diaper thing, but I’m working on it). There are days when I wish I could see her more, which is hard because I’m a full-time student and damn-near full-time employee, so I get maybe an hour or so to see her when school is in. Right now, we got this whole shake-you- head thing she really likes. She giggles herself to death every time I do it. The only thing that really gets on my nerves though is that she's starting to talk and I swear she keeps saying "da-da" over and over and it irks me that he can't be more of a father to her, who's calling his name even though she doesn't know what it means. Shit is heartbreaking for real. But what can you do?

3.) I need to work on money management. Maaaaan, my money management skills suck ass. I mean, I really tried to save, yo. I REALLY DID! But, after you've been deprived of stuff for so long, when you have the chance to get your hands on things you've always wanted, it's hard to refuse it. In the coming months, I'll have a little extra motivation because I'm planning on getting an apartment for the summer once the semester is out, so I already know I'ma have expenses, bills and the like. So that lends me a little extra motivation to save up and I’m planning to have around $5,000 saved up by then so I can pay everything off and still not have to kill myself working this summer. But if anybody can lend your boy some tips on how to save money I'd appreciate it (and don't say "stop buying so many sneakers"... get over it, people... it's NOWHERE near my biggest expense).

4.) I can actually fall for somebody normal. Ok, by now, if you've known me for even half a day, you know that I’m talking about Jill. With the exception of Shea, it seems that everyone I’ve fallen for is either crazy, not too bright, some sort of drug addict or some extreme mix of the three. And I mean, for the most part it's been my own fault. I choose to look past things that I know are warning signs for something bad. But this year was the first time I really had a connection with somebody who was just your average hard-working college student. And that shit was refreshing. I hate that she just happened to go to college in Florida... lol... but the fact remains.

5.) I generally treat people better than they treat me. You know... there are some really ungrateful motherfuckers out there in the world. And I mean, it's different when it's somebody you don't really know like that. But when it's your family, I mean, it just gets to you. I mean, there are just some people that don't appreciate a thing you do for them. They act like you owe them everything, but they owe you nothing at all. That shit irks me to no end. And I’ve always said it: don't do something with the intention that they will do something for you in return. Do it because you want to. And that's how I live. But if I do something for you and I need you to do something for me, don't act like I’ve never done anything for you at all.

6.) A guy can actually be friends with a girl. I actually have a friend who's nothing more than a friend. Can you believe it? ‘Cuz I sure as hell can't. We are strictly platonic friends. We've prolly discussed things that no man and woman ever have without being in a relationship. And we're so fucking goofy... lol. It amazes me how just completely retarded we can be. She's one of the only girls who can tell me about her relationship problems without me thinking "Damn, will you shut up about this nigga? I'm tired of hearing about this shit." Maybe that's 'cuz I care about her more than the average girl I talk to, but it's amazing to me how far we've come in the short year that we've known each other.

7.) A little cologne and lotion goes a long way. This year, I really stepped up on my grown-man status. I started rocking polos (something I never really did in the past) and jeans that actually fit. Bought a pair of dress shoes. Have multiple pairs of dress pants. Still no suit yet, but I’m working on that too. I mean, I just really got on my GM this year. I mean, I even got into skincare this year. That might be a little too metrosexual for some people, but I think any woman will agree that a man with nice skin looks better than a dude with jacked up skin. My friend Veronica put me on to Aveeno and that's the only thing I’ve used that ever really helped with my skin ‘cuz it sucks ass. But I’m starting to get on it. Next year, I’m focusing on smell-goods and I think I’m going to break down and let a woman take me to get a manicure (‘cuz there's no way in hell I’m doing it on my own the first time), but I'm definitely tryna get away from that average-hood-nigga-from-the-block look.

8.) Sneakers are so much better on a 30% (or sometimes 50%) discount. Maaaaan... I know a lot of people trip off the fact that I have twenty pairs of sneakers, but if you realized how much I would've spent if I had paid full price (which I only have on one pair) you'd see that they were all good buys. My Jordan XXIs at retail? $175. I paid $63. Air Forces? $55 a pop. I've saved close to $600 on Retros alone this year. And I know I complain about my job a lot because I feel like they're jerkin me around a lot of the time. But I’m not leaving anytime soon. The people are great and I’ve met a lot of chicks working there. Plus there's that discount that I wouldn't know what to do without.

9.) I've lost a lot of that edge I used to have. I remember the days when I'd smack somebody for just looking at me like they had a problem. These days, I’m a lot calmer and more apt to talk stuff out than I used to be. I think it's come from a lot of things. Me going to college and seeing something other than the hood I grew up in. Anger management definitely helped. Being around jolly-ass white people at North Hills definitely took some of that away (LOL)

10.) Most of the people in the world want you to fail. A lot of people will make it look like they really care about you and want you to succeed in life but in reality; they're all hoping for your downfall. They all have different reasons why, but they still want it to happen for whatever reason. They'll make it look like they have your back and try and convince you that others are out to get you, when they're the main ones you need to watch. That being said, watch your back in '07. Shit is real out here (yeah, I stole that from The Wire commercial... so sue me, jackass)